One Simple (But Important) Tip for How to Date Your Spouse

By Brad Rhoads

When’s the last time you dated your spouse? My guess is, it’s been a while. You’ve probably fallen prey to the busyness of life. It’s funny how life can so easily get in the way of marriage, isn’t it? 

In my experience, there are some things that work, and some that don’t—when it comes to planning and actually making time for date nights with your spouse. Don’t let life—or anything—get in between your most important relationship. Here is one simple (but important) tip for how to date your spouse.


How to Date Your Spouse

An invitation without a date is no invitation at all. Make a plan for dating your spouse and put it on your schedule. Otherwise, good ideas will not become good times. If you wait until a "more convenient time," your dating will be sporadic at best...and non-existent at worst. Keeping your marriage intimate, fun, and exciting requires an intentional approach. Draw up the game plan, and execute! 

Recently, I saw a concert my wife loves that will be two hours away. I immediately bought two tickets and put them on the calendar. Otherwise, the idea would have been placed on the back-burner, and the concert would have come and gone. Take the initiative, and reap the rich rewards!

Grace Marriage Mission

Plan a fun, inventive date with your spouse at least one time this month. If you are really feeling like an overachiever, go ahead and plan out a date each week, and a quarterly overnight getaway. It can be a lot of fun to surprise your spouse with a date you've planned, if you're able to, but feel free to consult them if you're struggling with ideas for what they might like (or if they tend to run the social calendar).

Think on these Scripture:

Matthew 7:12 > So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.

James 1:22 > But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves.

James 2:14-17 > What good is it, my brothers, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can that faith save him? If a brother or sister is poorly clothed and lacking in daily food, and one of you says to them, “Go in peace, be warmed and filled,” without giving them the things needed for the body, what good is that? So also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.

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