How to reconnect with your spouse

By Danny May

Stop and think with me for a moment. Have you ever thought about where you'd be without your spouse? Have you thought about who you might be and what your life might look like?

Certainly, in many ways, your spouse has shaped the course of your life. Your spouse has likely influenced you in many, many ways. In this post, I want to share a quick thought with you that will help you know how to reconnect with your spouse.  

Where would you be without your spouse?

I want you to take a moment to honestly reflect on this question. In our day, there's too much busyness. We get married, start a career, start enjoying kids, and life takes another dimension. We simply get too busy.

We don't stop and think about how good, helpful, and how much of a blessing our spouse is.

Consider a few things your spouse may have taught you.

  • Your spouse may have taught you the importance of cleanliness.
  • You may have learned a new skill or taken up a hobby because you love it.
  • Maybe you've traveled to countries or taken risks or accepted adventures with them that you never would have tackled on your own.
  • Maybe you dress better.
  • Maybe you have a new favorite meal or restaurant.
  • Maybe you now think before you speak.
  • Maybe you love Jesus because they loved Him first


How to reconnect with your spouse

When you stop to think about it, there probably isn't a sphere of life that your spouse hasn't touched. From personal, relational, professional, spiritual, financial, your past, and your hopes for the future—your spouse has influenced many parts of your life.

This is a tremendous testament to God's design in marriage as two become one. God deserves the glory. And, your spouse should be thanked! Are you grateful for the blessings, whether they are big or small, that your spouse brings to your life? 

Consider this: in your reviewing where you would and wouldn't be if you didn't have your spouse, this just be a great opportunity to reconnect with your spouse

Grace Marriage Mission

Read and reflect on 2 Corinthians 4:15: For it is all for your sake, so that as grace extends to more and more people it may increase thanksgiving, to the glory of God. 

What are five things you can thank God for related to your spouse? Spend time reflecting on the major and minor ways your spouse has changed your life. Compile a list of five (5) ways your life would look different were it not for the gift of your spouse.

In your time with God, thank Him for the blessing of your spouse. Thank God for that thing and then find a way to show your gratitude to your spouse. This list could also serve as fodder for good date-night discussion. Take turns sharing ways your life looks different because of the other, and enjoy the rich conversations that flow from that time of mutual thankfulness. 

Tags: Faith, Relationship, Communication