Merry Christmas, Darling! Fun questions to ask your spouse this holiday

By Jennifer Bell

Whenever my husband and I attend a Grace Marriage session, our favorite lessons are the ones that involve a quiz about our favorite things or questions about our childhoods. You would think that two people who started dating in high school and have been married for over thirty years would know everything there is to know about each other, but these quizzes and questions have shown us that’s not the case!



Several years ago, we invited several couples over for dinner in the weeks leading up to Christmas. After dinner, we gathered in our living room and asked a few fun questions:

  1. What’s the best Christmas gift you’ve ever received?
  2. What’s the best Christmas gift you’ve ever given someone?
  3. Tell us about your best Christmas ever.
  4. Tell us about your worst Christmas ever.

The answers ranged from hysterical to heartbreaking, and we came to know our friends on a deeper level during that evening of conversation.

On your next date night, take some time to ask each other the questions above, along with these:

  1. What is your earliest memory of Christmas?
  2. Did your family focus on Santa or on Jesus (or some combination of both) during this season?
  3. Were the gifts from Santa wrapped or unwrapped?
  4. Were you allowed to open any gifts on Christmas Eve?
  5. What’s your favorite Christmas song?
  6. What’s your favorite food or treat to have at Christmas time?
  7. Which do you like best – a real tree or an artificial one?
  8. What amazes you most about the first Christmas (found in chapters 1 and 2 of Luke)?

My prayer is that this exercise will bring you closer together as a couple as you reminisce, laugh, and maybe even cry together. 

And may all our eyes turn to the One who is Emmanuel—God with us!

“For to us a child is born, to us a son is given; and the government shall be upon his shoulder, and his name shall be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.” Isaiah 9:6.



Jennifer Bell has been married to her high school sweetheart, Brant, for 30 years. They’ve raised three sons and one daughter to adulthood, and are still best friends. She recently became “Mimi” to a new grandson, Elijah. She enjoys being part of the worship team at church, reading, and spending time with her book club friends, and just hanging out with her family in Franklin, TN. 

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