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10 Questions To Tell If You’re Too Controlling in Marriage

If you get upset when someone says you are controlling, you just may be controlling. I find that most spouses are good-willed and...


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3 Ways to Handle Conflict in Marriage

Incarnating means putting something into flesh. Jesus was God incarnate. God put on human flesh or, another way to say it, he was...


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5 Questions Every Spouse Should Ask About Sex

How often should physical intimacy occur in your marriage?

Newsflash: there is no absolute answer for this one. Age, sex drives,...


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5 Things You Need to Pay Attention to in Your Marriage

I grew up in a farm family. While I’d love to have a farm and some “country” land, I do not want to be a farmer. However, I’d...


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5 Ways To Communicate Even When You Disagree

Right now in our culture, there is a societal trend of rudeness, disrespect, and toxicity. No matter what the issue, disrespect,...


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3 Reminders When Marital Conflict Happens

Let’s agree on one foundational reality; having a good marriage does not mean you do not have conflict. No matter how much two...


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5 Questions for Becoming One in Marriage

Conflict, communication, sex, finances, parenting, in-laws…these are always at the top of the lists of problems in marriage. In...


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3 Steps to Resolving Conflict in Marriage

In the biblical account of Adam and Eve, we encounter the first example of marital conflict. In the story, we are given perhaps a...


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Why You Shouldn't Follow Your Heart in Marriage

Desire makes a very poor guide, especially in marriage. Often, we don’t want to do the right thing. It is a reality of our flesh....


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One Simple (But Important) Tip for How to Date Your Spouse

When’s the last time you dated your spouse? My guess is, it’s been a while. You’ve probably fallen prey to the busyness of life....


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10 Things To Do Instead of Complaining in Your Marriage

My wife asked me to stop by the store on the way home to pick up some diced tomatoes. As I was checking out, a woman suddenly...


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8 Tips for Making Marriage Goals

There are two types of people in this world—resolution makers and non-resolution makers. Odds are good that whichever type you...


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How To Ruin Your Marriage in Two Words

A young lady ran into Walmart and made a beeline for the bathroom. When she walked out, about six inches of toilet paper was...


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What To Do When You Hate Being Married

Think of the last time you went out of your way to help someone else. Perhaps you volunteered to serve meals to the hungry, or...


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10 Ways to Overcome a Boring Marriage

What do the Kardashians, PowerPoint presentations, rice cakes, and Shakespeare have in common? They are all once listed by Mirror...


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How Not to Help a Stressed-Out Spouse

Recently, a Grace Marriage participant’s husband was really stressed. She decided to help by telling him, “Calm down. Things are...


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Is Jealousy in Marriage a Good Thing?

I know a couple whose marriage is one that many would envy. This man and his wife have been married sixty years and regularly...


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10 Ways To Stay Married
By Brad Rhoads On December 23, 2021

10 Ways To Stay Married

Warning, severe congestion ahead. You've no doubt experienced this phrase. We hate congestion. My guess is you're already...


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How to Invest in Your Marriage

Your marriage is like your muscles. Not long ago, I hurt my back and was unable to work out or run. With some medical care and...


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The Perfect Marriage
By Marilyn Rhoads On December 9, 2021

The Perfect Marriage

A dear friend recently left me a voicemail that said, “Hey Marilyn. Life has been going so well. I've been having a killer quiet...


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Watch Out: Things that Destroy a Marriage

"OK" is not OK. When alcoholics have been sober for a while, they tend to quit going to support meetings and calling their...


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The marriage advice you don’t want to hear—but should.

Perhaps you've heard the saying, “Where there’s smoke there’s fire.” It's a true-ism that exists for fire safety. I recently...


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What no one tells you about discipline and wisdom in marriage

What is your first thought when you think about the spouse you want to be? Do you think of the areas you tend to fail, and long...


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How to love your spouse when they’re the hardest to love

Several years ago, Marilyn and I had the unfortunate privilege of being visited by bed bugs. Marilyn hates all bugs, but even the...


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Keep your married dates especially when you’re busy

Shingles, chiropractors, and brown recluse spiders. It wasn't too long ago that these three things were the topic of our everyday...


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3 steps to strengthening your marriage

Are you suffering from IDS? IDS is a common problem we face at Grace Marriage. IDS stands for “I Don’t Syndrome.” When working...


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The antidote for your struggling marriage

My mentor confronted me and said “your peace is dependent on your perception of your own behavior, not on the grace of Jesus. You...


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If we had it to do all over: advice for newlyweds

One morning I was getting ready for work in the midst of sad-wife syndrome and five-kid chaos. I was doing OK until lost keys...


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How to talk about money in marriage

We are probably all guilty of deciding (consciously or subconsciously) that dating our spouse is too expensive to do too often....


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What your busyness and distraction are doing to your marriage

In our current culture, marriage is scoffed at rather than held in honor. Busyness and distraction are two of the primary...


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One idea for how to listen to your spouse

I have a friend who calls certain challenges, "Opportunities to serve." What if we really thought of the challenges ahead of us,...


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5 ways to protect your marriage from divorce

Looking back, we both agree that we could’ve done better. We should’ve paid more attention to the signals and did something to...


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3 marriage killers worth watching out for

Marriages struggle for many different reasons. That's no surprise. From communication to finances, each couple has to face their...


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What makes a successful marriage
By Tim Hoak On September 2, 2021

What makes a successful marriage

The Apostle Peter makes a profound statement in his first letter that should have a penetrating application to every marriage....


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The power of forgiveness in marriage

James Clear says, “Some people spend their entire lives waiting for the time to be right to make an improvement.” Let's be...


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How to manage marriage and family

It's so easy for many married couples to blur the lines between work and home. Work emails, texts, and calls are answered at...


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4 ways to improve communication in your marriage

For too many marriages, the word "schedule" is a four-letter word. No, you say, it’s got eight letters…but you know what I mean....


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5 reasons we reach for our phones in marriage

Are you missing an opportunity to connect with your spouse by over-connecting to your phone? Not too long ago, I was talking with...


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10 questions to know if technology is ruining your marriage

I often hear, “I feel like technology is ruining my marriage.” Desperate couples will often feel like something is wrong, but...


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What respect does and does not mean in marriage

Most of us know at least some of the lyrics from Aretha Franklin’s 1967 hit song, “Respect.” In fact, just reading the song title...


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How to have an intentional marriage

Anne was completely enamored with her new car. She washed it regularly and drove it proudly. There was only one minor problem....


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4 good things that can make a bad marriage

You’ve heard it said that you can never have “too much of a good thing.”  However, too much of a good thing always cost us other...


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Should we stay married for the kids?

I have heard it said many times, “We are not going to stay married just for the kids.” There are some real flaws and often...


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How to improve your marriage in the easiest way possible

One of my favorite games to play is Spades. In the game, each player decides how many tricks they will be able to take, or win....


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How to improve your marriage without talking about it

Are you a person who makes decisions quickly? Do you respond in conversation with the first thought that pops into your head? Do...


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Divorce statistics tell the story. Or do they?

I have heard it said that “Sixty-five percent of stats are not true.” In the marriage and divorce arena, you'll hear stats all...


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Why fighting for your marriage is so important

Are you a warrior or coward when it comes to your marriage? I can speak as a husband, great husbands are warriors, not cowards....


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Why couples drift apart and how to overcome it

As a mother of four children born within six years, I often heard a question that started like this: “Mom, where is my…?” Almost...


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How to talk about tech and marriage boundaries

At the end of each week my phone gives me a “screen time report.” This report surprises me every single week. It shouldn’t...


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Living by faith not fear in your marriage

Fear of getting hurt. Fear of failure. Fear of rejection. Fear of death. Fear of uncertainty. I had all of it. I tried to fit in...


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Living out your wedding vows
By Cheryl Goss On February 18, 2021

Living out your wedding vows

My husband and I married in 2007. It was a beautiful, traditional wedding. My son walked me down the aisle. Our first pastor...


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10 secrets your divorce attorney may never tell you

At Grace Marriage, we strive to bring you resources that will infuse grace and affection into your marriage as you strive to love...


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Living sacrifices: learning how to serve your spouse

Therefore, brothers and sisters, in view of the mercies of God, I urge you to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy...


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Five unique date ideas for your marriage

Marilyn made me a cake for my birthday not long ago. The cake was good, but the icing really made it. When you add icing, it...


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Marriage and divorce: a 13-year-old's perspective

We received an article from a 13 year old expressing her perspective of marriage and divorce. It's enlightening to read this from...


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Who are you chasing in your marriage?

Who Are You Pursuing?

Some folks will tell you to chase after your spouse. Some will tell you to take care of yourself first—so...


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20 most popular marriage posts of 2020

It's been a busy year at Grace Marriage. We've tried to challenge and encourage you and your marriage over the year on our blog....


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Merry Christmas, Darling! Fun questions to ask your spouse this holiday

Whenever my husband and I attend a Grace Marriage session, our favorite lessons are the ones that involve a quiz about our...


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Loved people love people: the power of forgiveness in marriage

“Hurt people hurt people.” Most of us have heard this phrase before, and its meaning is pretty clear. When someone has unresolved...


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Conflict resolution in marriage: 4 habits for every situation

Married couples will experience conflict. Most marital conflict is because of miscommunication, finances, or physical intimacy....


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Serving your spouse and the power of now

Serving your spouse isn't always easy. I know. It can be tough. I have a friend. He's a great guy. He’d give you the shirt off...


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5 questions for your next date night

Have you lost that lovin’ feeling? It is easy to do when life seems to suck all our energy and time away. Being intentional in...


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5 things you’re missing in managing marriage stress

How do we manage life without feeling overwhelmed? How do avoid feeling like life is this huge responsibility to fulfill? How do...


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When sarcasm infects your home

I don’t know if you ever wake up like this, but today I woke up really sad. Last night, things went south at our house. Feelings...


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5 ideas for a thriving marriage instead of being married to your job

“Help, my spouse is married to their job.” This is what gets said so often in struggling marriages.

 

Are you the one saying...


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Newlywed advice: learning to dance through the minefield of marriage

We’ve all been to wedding receptions or other places where we’ve seen people dancing. Have you noticed how the couples dance...


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How to fix a marriage by rejecting these two lies

John and Susan met through an online dating service. The techno-virtual matchmakers of the day ran the algorithms and determined...


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Turn, turn, turn: the changing seasons of marriage

As we move from the long, free days of summer into the colorful days of fall, I always try to take a moment to meditate on the...


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Want to connect with your spouse? Learn 9 ways to connect with God

Do you want to truly connect with your spouse? I believe you must first learn to truly connect with God. Now, do you ever feel...


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How to save your marriage: ask this vital question

Maybe your marriage doesn't quite need "saving". But, there’s a phrase that Dr. Phil coined—or at least popularized—that's a good...


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How to fight for your marriage
By Dan Darling On September 16, 2020

How to fight for your marriage

Eighteen years ago, a man waited by a church stage in Chicago as a beautiful young woman from Texas walked down the aisle. When...


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From frantic to free: what makes a good marriage

I don’t think it comes as a surprise to anyone that we are living in the most frantic and “connected” society the world has ever...


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Slow down: 10 ideas for how to connect like never before

When our son was 4 years old, a friend was visiting our home. Our son gently grabbed her face and gave her a soft, slow kiss on...


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What happens to marriage after kids arrive on the scene?

This is disturbing. Over the last 30 years, twice as many marriages of those over the age of 50 now wind up in shreds. Some of...


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7 reasons for divorce and how to overcome them

Why do people file for divorce? Well, it all depends on who you ask. Now, these seven reasons aren't in any order. And, I'm not...


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Lover or manager? How to handle money arguments in marriage

Early in our marriage, I caught the “Get out of Debt” bug. And, honestly, I wasn't great at knowing how to handle money...


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3 at home date night ideas to keep the romance alive

At home date night ideas. Sounds, fun right? Well, let me ask you something else: is romance a priority in your marriage? I...


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How to stay married during a pandemic

These are some trying times we’re living in. No one could have predicted that we’d all be working remotely, wearing masks in...


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Really, who doesn't have marriage problems?!

Working in ministry, I receive many prayer requests. They include issues related to depression, anxiety, self-worth, addictions,...


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I'm not better: how the sin of pride creeps up on us.

I was reflecting on the great impact of Ravi Zacharias after we heard that he passed away. The first time I saw him he was...


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Chaos or avoidance? 3 skills to master for fighting fair in marriage.

One of the keys to having a fulfilling and enduring marriage is the ability to resolve conflict well. I’ve learned through the...


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Grace and hope during COVID-19: Bill Rieser (Video)

Brad Rhoads talks with Bill Rieser about anxiety, fear, and uncertainty. They offer encouragement, hope, and grace even more!


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Preventing the drift and protecting your marriage (3 minute video)

Preventing the drift in marriage is vital. You must learn to protect your marriage.


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5 ways to fight selfishness in your marriage

How do we keep selfishness from festering and becoming a major problem in our marriages? Here are five easy ways to fight...


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Fixing your spouse? (Video)

Ever feel like you need to fix your spouse? Brad shares his recent attempt to "fix" Marilyn…and the results. 


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How did Grace Marriage start?

We recently had the privilege of spending time with our friends at LifePoint Church | Smyrna, TN. What an amazing,...


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Church leaders: a plan to do less marriage crisis counseling

Prevention in marriage is three times more effective than intervention.  Plus, as the average couple is unhappy six years before...


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